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Honestly, this is going to be a huge rant, because the behaviour I’ve seen from people around dogs really drives me up the wall. But if even one person reads this and takes something away from it in how to appropriately and respectfully interact with dogs it would be worthwhile.
I understand dogs are cute and people like to pet them, but please keep in mind that it’s CRITICAL to ensure you exercise proper manners around dogs you don’t know.
1. NEVER, ever, ever, ever touch a dog you don’t know, unless given explicit consent by it’s owner.
2. If you see a dog without an owner (perhaps it’s tied outside a store) DON’T TOUCH IT. If you’re concerned about its welfare- stand close by, but not close enough to intimidate or be in contact with it and either wait for it’s owner to return, or if necessary, call the authorities. If water is available, feel free to provide it to the dog, without making direct contact.
3. When you see a dog walking down the street with its owner DO NOT hoot, holler, whistle, snap, bark, growl, snarl, yell, or otherwise allow yourself to be a nuisance. Why people do this is beyond me, but it’s completely unacceptable behaviour.
4. Likewise, if you’re walking past a dog on the street, don’t attempt to shove your hands in its face and/ or touch the dog in any way. Many dogs don’t like to be touched by strangers and your need to act like an asshole could very easily result in your getting bitten by a dog whom you felt entitled to touch. You wouldn’t shove your hand in a baby’s face as you passed by it, and you wouldn’t attempt to hold someone’s baby without asking permission first, so don’t do it to dogs.
5. If you’re accompanied by a child, ensure they know that they need to respect animals, and must always ask permission to touch anyone’s pet. Likewise, children AND adults SHOULD NOT run at, or suddenly by, a dog as it could very easily startle the dog causing an undesirable reaction. Children should also be aware that screaming and running from a dog that they’re petting is unacceptable behaviour and can startle the animal and/or cause the dog to jump at them.
6. DO NOT TOUCH, TALK OR MAKE DIRECT EYE CONTACT WITH ANY DOG you don’t know. This seems like common sense but most people do some or all of these things when meeting new dogs. Some dogs have very specific rules that must be followed and by challenging their protocol you could cause an unbalanced dog or dog in training to act out. Also, making direct eye contact with a dog, especially with an unbalanced or dominant dog could result in injury if they attempt to defend themselves/ their rank.
7. When meeting new dogs, even dogs in off leash areas, remain calm and assertive, and allow them to sniff you before you address them. Providing them the ability to sniff your flatten hand (Palm up or down- doesn’t really matter) allows them in a non-challenging way to decide if they want to interact with you or just sniff you and walk away. NEVER attempt to reach over a strange dogs head as this can be very threatening to some dogs and cause them to retaliate.
8. DOG PARKS ARE FOR DOGS IN THE SAME WAY KIDS PARKS ARE FOR KIDS. Don’t bring your children, especially toddlers to off leash dog parks. Dog parks are specifically designated for dogs and give them the ability to socialize in a safe environment. Not all dogs like kids and thus, kids should not be running at large in dog parks any more than dogs should be running at large in a playground. If you insist on bringing your child to a dog park- IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO ENSURE THAT YOUR CHILD KNOWS HOW TO BEHAVE RESPECTFULLY AROUND DOGS. If you child thinks a dog park is a petting zoo then they ARE NOT ready to be coming along with you.
9. Acknowledge that not all dogs give “typical” warning signs that they’re uncomfortable and want to be left alone. While most people associate barking, growling and snarling/ bearing teeth to be “tell tale signs” that a dog is warning you off, not all dogs provide such blatant physical or audible warnings. Rather, some dogs merely become rigid, fixate, suddenly close their mouth and/or drool excessively, amongst other things to signify that they’re about to attack. It’s important to understand that all of this can be avoided simply by ensuring you ask permission before touching a dog as their owner will likely always be more aware of their dogs warning signs than you are.
10. It’s important to understand that dogs, like all animals, have their limitations. Just because YOUR dog likes when strangers/kids touch them doesn’t mean all dogs do. At the end of the day, dogs are animals and need to be respected as beings with their own complex personalities and issues.
Honestly, the way North Americans treat dogs is outrageous. Just because dogs are cute doesn’t mean you’re entitled to do as you please with them. They’re companions- they’re not here for your entertainment.
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